GREATER POSSIBILITIES
Thursday, April 23, 2009 at 01:18PM 
A few weeks ago on a Monday Morning Charge callI was listenig to Kip and Karl talk about dream stealers. It dawned on me that this is seems to be one of the only industries where we really ever bring it up. I don't ever remember going home and telling my spouse about a promotion and him saying "I hate that you're moving up the corporate ladder. Why don't you just stay where you are?" It just goes to show you that people can be afraid of the possibilities, but only because they are thinking in the worst case scenario. If I quit my "steady" job (do those even exist in this economy, by the way?) to work for myself what can I lose?
- A consistent paycheck. I know exactly what to expect and when to expect it.
- I get up by 7 and I'm in the office by 9.
- I work, I take a lunch break.
- And then I go home at 5.
There are problems with this scenario. They are called the other, GREATER possibilities. The ones we can create if we would just allow ourselves to let go of this false sense of control and wrong definitions of what "stability" mean. What could be gained if we flipped the switch?
- Huge paychecks, that arrive all the time.
- Expecting it to always show up when it's supposed to, which is always the right time.
- I get up when I want to
- I eat when I want to
- I sleep when I want to
- And I do whatever I want in between!
I'm not sure which one sounds better to you, but I tend to gravitate to the GREATER possibilities.
I remember when I brought home my first check for my first sale in the direct sales industry. I was elated and I couldn't wait to show it to my doubting husband (ex-husband, that is). He had ridiculed me, told me that I was involved with a scam and he would go on and on. The odd thing is, that he was in one of the hardest sales industries out there- copiers. And he was good at it. In my mind, I wanted him to teach me what he was doing so I could apply it to my new business. He clearly did not envision that as a possibility. I showed him the check, and he had nothing to say except "That's great. Now you feel free to go out and make the millions and I'll stay home and cook and clean." In my mind I ingored his sarcasm and thought, "Okay!"
Things got better for me, but not for him, and eventually we parted ways. His final words for me were "You'll never make it without me." The empowered woman inside me rose right up and thought, "Oh, but I will. I will."
What if I had given up and given in and said he was right? Where would I be today? None of us know, we can only speculate. I'm just glad that I didn't buy in to his possiblities.
A couple years later I remember sitting out on the beach at a resort in the Dominican Republic. I was sipping on a pina colada, enjoying the blue skies, the crystal clear water, and my financial independance. I had to chuckle, because all I could think about was how he was the one missing out on this lifestyle because he could not see the GREATER POSSIBILITIES.
Give yourself the chance to succeed. Give yourself the chance to live a quality of life that the average person will never realize. If you fail the first time, get right back up and do it again. If you fail the second time, dust yourself off, jump up and do it again. Focus my friend.
Focus on the GREATER POSSIBILITIES and I believe that you will find they are in very close reach.
Mary Dee
TJ and Denise...thanks so much for sharing! You are clearly both at a "turning point" in your lives. If you know WHY you want this new life, WHY you don't want to be bothered with debt, WHY you want to create financial success then your only option IS to succeed. The next question is...how long are you willing to see it through?
Some people want over night success...but over night success usually means a couple years of digging in to your business, investing your time in production versus playing, and focusing on revenue producing activities. It also means that you have to treat it like an investment...you put money in to it and you wait for the return, which in most cases is not instant. You have to be in it for the long run.
Here's one thing to not lose sight of either...the PRODUCT line at Wealth Masters is another way for you to start putting your financial house in order. Once you get the m1 in your hands,go sign up for the Wealth Acceleration Program (WAP). The WAP is a road map, created just for you, to show you the fastest ways out of debt, the best tips to retire early, etc. You may find ways to shave your budget and opportunities to grow your money in creative ways that never occurred to you before.
Lastly, thanks for the kudos Linda! I try to type like I speak, and other than that I guess I just really paid attention in English class! Or maybe it was all those silly 25 page term papers we had to develop in college? Or to reference an earlier blog...maybe I'm just that darn lucky :)
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Amen to that.
You're a great writer! How'd you learn to write such great articles. I want to learn! Any suggestions?
Hi Mary,
I'm TJ from Singapore. Your story is Deja Vu for me, except that my spouse is still a strong part of me. He's a wonderful man and a fantastic father and one of the reasons for me to research opportunities to free ourselves from financial woes, although it is not so bad - its more of the same fear of success that you talked about in your story!.
I'm wanting to start my own business wtih my own money while still keep my full-time job so that he can feel 'comfortable' about it. I feel its being hiprocitical, but I'l live my pseudo life for now...
I've put up an application for CCPro on Aaron & Sophia's website and am wondering around WMI's site. to learn about the products that I 'will' be marketing. I've yet to get the BiB at this moment because I've busted my credit cards and have to wait till the end of the month to put my money where my mouth is!
I'm still figuring out if I should forgo the 3 M1 products commissions to A&S because I simply don't have the startup capital for the M1 product myself... But I'm giving myself till the end of the month to come out with it! If that didn't work, I'll probably give to A&S because I think they are great leaders!
Thank you for this story and indulging in mine. Cheers & have a fantastic weekend coming up ahead!
TJ
For both Mary Dee and TJ and my sponsor, Tanya Outridge. I have dreamt of not having to worry about where to find the money to pay all of my bill, let alone for a dressy pair of shoes; I have worried myself to sleep on Sunday nights wondering how I might get through the week in sould crippling jobs. I took a step just before Xmas which has forced me to re-evaluate everything I do in life; the step led me to a car crash and right now, the possibility of losing my home and everything I ahve struggled for in recent years.
No jobs around together with concerns about my recovery from the crash have forced me to think bigger and brought me here. I still have big dreams; in fact now they are way way bigger : ) I have not yet started here apart from purchasing my m1, which TJ, I have to tell you, I took out a loan for, because you know what...this is my only chance of getting the life I have always wondered about having. Does it worry me? Yep! I come from a culture of poverty and have been surrounded by people all of my life who cry 'yes but, think of the pitfalls'. Each of these people undermines your confidence and faith in carrying on regardless. I have food in my mouth and as a westerner, probably always will have; should I fall, the state may keep me alive. So, what have I got to lose; greater debt? My life is a constant worry for survival anyway; it's all relative. So, bank loan now obtaind, I am investing in me and my faith in the possibility of my achieving something better.... much better and not just for me, but my brother and sister and maybe the kids I'll adopt...: ) TJ, you sound like a woman who gets out there and does it and even though you ain't there yet, you have already done the hardest thing a woman can do, left someone behind to whom you were attached....you let go then and now, if you can, let go again and maybe I'll see you in the sunshine sometime in the future.
Thanks for this blog, Mary. I hope I get to meet you both sometime. Let's hear it for those who have needed and received and share in turn. x
Hey Mary,
Much encouraged by your article, and the adversity you overcame, and the strength of character that you have to attain what you have. YOur story lends more of a realism to all you say, because you have been there. I am a WM 1 level member starting this month on my journey, I hope to see you in one of the conferences, Your blog hits the mark! Thanks! David C